I was hoping that for our month #6 update, I would be telling you that our homestudy was complete and that we would very soon be a “waiting family”.
But here’s the thing about adoption: adoptions don’t go how you think they should go (or at least none of my friends’ adoptions have).
Without going into details, I will tell you that last week, we hit an unexpected roadblock. Last week really felt like a blur, Funnel and I have cried and we’ve spent a lot of time praying and trying to figure out what to do next. We have felt frustrated, sad and angry – as very personal decisions are being made for us, without consideration of our own judgment and feelings.
Initially, we were really discouraged, but after some wise counsel from our family, friends, and a co-worker of mine who is an adoption assessor, we’re starting to feel more hopeful and at peace. We’re viewing this as just a temporary setback that God is going to work out for us very soon. We have felt all along that there is a particular, special little person that is supposed to be our son or daughter and any delays we encounter are allowing things to fall into place for that to happen.
The Bible says that God is able to do immeasurably more than we can ask or imagine. This has given me so much comfort this past week. We’re asking God to do something that feels to us like moving a mountain, and we’d love it if you could pray for us.
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I don’t want to be a completed downer with this depressing blog post, so here are some things that make me happy:
I had my very first baby shower a couple weeks ago. My mother-in-law threw it and it was really special and lovely. It was mostly people from Funnel’s side of the family, but my mom, my aunt (from Chicago) and my sister-in-law Heather (from Indianapolis) came. I was completely blown away by everyone’s generosity and kindness and am so excited that we now have so many necessities for our little Frederick. I will post some photos soon. In April, my best friend Meghan is throwing me another shower. What a blessing! (A couple people have asked me why people are having showers for me at this point in the process. With the kind of adoption we’re doing it, we could be placed with a baby literally the day after we officially become a “waiting family”. A couple in one of our classes got matched with their baby 4 days after becoming a waiting family. It already takes some of my stress away now that we have bottles, diapers, clothes, a car seat, etc in case we get placed really quickly! )
I cannot imagine a better partner to be going through this with than my Funnel. He is so fun and goofy and sweet and the last few days, we’ve had many laughs, despite the disappointments. No matter how crappy things seem, going to Los Jalapenos with my buddy for happy hour (99 cent tacos and really cheap margaritas) always cheers me up.